Wow!  What a powerful book.  I want to thank you for sharing your journey, thoughts & what God has taught you.  I am blown away at the hope and encouragement I’ve received!

One of the most prevelant names I have taken on in my life is “ABANDONED“.  My Mom left our family when I was 8 years old and the pain of that and what followed shapes who I am a great deal.  My journey of healing began 13 years ago and still continues. 

At 40, after reading your book, I realize how I continue to hold onto that name at times.  As I read Isaiah 49:15, I cried: 

Though she may forget, I will not forget you.

El Roi.  The God who sees me.

There is much to process.  I am currently battling through some anxieties and the timing of my reading this is God’s.  I can’t thank you enough.  Your vulnerability throughout the book will touch many lives.  We have been doing this book as a study here in Dublin.  It’s been a blessing to many of the women.

May God continue to bless you through your ministry!  Thank-you for blessing me.

Hi, I am writing to let you know that I have just read “your secret name” and think it is one of [if not the best] Christian spiritual books I have ever read.

Easy to understand, yet at the same time very deep. It really has changed my life. I can so relate to the concept, and to some of your earthly names [including cutter]

I have always been fascinated about how in the bible God gave some of his followers new names, I always wondered if God thought of all of us by a different name.

I would recommend your book to all Christian people, it really does help free us from names [or as some would call them labels] amongst my names are fat, cutter, depressive, chocoholic, depressive…having read your book I now realize none of these are helpful and none can be how God thinks of me.

I am looking forward to learning my secret name and have sent an email to take part in the fasting too….I thank  God that you wrote this book, I believe all Churches should read this to their congregations, it has the power of the spirit in its words and truly can and will change lives.

Your sister in Christ.

If you read one book this fall, please do yourself a favor and make it Your Secret Name.

Kary Oberbrunner has written what is surely his Magnum Opus. This book is an eye-opening look at the story of Jacob. Interspersed with his own journey, Kary leads you on a Biblical discovery of your Secret Name.

We were all given names at birth. From there, as we journey through life, we are given other names as well. Some of my given names were KLUTZ, REJECTED and FEARFUL. It took many a year before I discovered my Secret Name. This is why I find this book to be so powerful. Kary doesn’t shy away from the pain of his own journey.

I cannot accurately describe how blessed you will be by reading this book but I want to encourage you to check it out for yourself. You can also go over the books website and take the Secret Name Test.

Watch this video and then go check out Your Secret Name today.

There were many times I found myself standing on the side of the road, closing my eyes as the downdraft of passing trucks rippled through my hair, thinking that just a few steps into that busy street would make everything better.

It wasn’t some singular event that brought me to the darkest point of my life, but an accumulation of sadness that left me feeling buried alive. I was already in a coffin, why not make it official; this wasn’t living. My mother and stepfather couldn’t see the sadness that haunted me, but my grandmother, a strong Christian woman whom I saw maybe once a month somehow knew.

I never spoke about it while it was happening, but in hindsight I know the signs were there if anyone had bothered to look: the lack of friends, the fear of men, the fact that I cried myself to sleep every night. It wasn’t until 8th grade that I called my mom from my father’s house in North Carolina and begged her to come get me. I don’t remember why she didn’t, but I do remember having to suffer through the rest of the week before my father drove my brother and I home.

For every other holiday and 5 weeks every summer my father came to collect my brother and I from our humble Ohio home and take us away to his three story mansion in another state. He was wealthy. He only wanted my brother, but I came with the package. I was lucky he remembered my name; he couldn’t remember my birthday or how old I was, and he had no qualms about reminding how I was a burden. He had demanded that my mother abort me, but I thank God to this day that she said no to him, if only just that once.

When I was two, he left my mom for another woman. My father had a lot of women, and a lot of girls. For years I stayed silent while he molested my cousin and I, while he groped other women who were not his wife, and while he tried to brainwash us all into believing some theology taught by him. We weren’t allowed to leave the house without him, we weren’t allowed to watch tv or listen to music, we weren’t allowed to go to church or celebrate Holidays, we weren’t allowed to wear certain clothes to bed.

He held gatherings in his house and would invite certain people over to listen to him teach. His theology was based on the bible, but only the parts about sex, rape, and punishment. His choice of punishment was a beating from a wire hanger twisted into a rod…and some reference to sparing the rod and spoiling the child.

He made me feel dead inside for so long, so that all I could do was cry and never feel relieved. When I was seventeen, I couldn’t take it anymore. Knowing that he still had my little sister and I couldn’t save her, that he hadn’t been punished for what he’d done to me or my cousin, and that I would always be afraid and never be able to love a man made me feel hopeless. I was tired of crying and feeling empty.

I was raised a “Christian”, but after my father’s insane cult-like teachings, I was afraid to trust in God. There’s an amount of subservience, fear and humility required in Christianity, and I didn’t want to love someone else who was going to make me feel small and worthless without him. I didn’t want to feel insignificant or afraid. I just wanted to feel whole, and I didn’t want to hurt anymore.

I decided not to step in front of that truck. It was in my living room, far from the road or coffins that I found peace. I gave up and I broke down, and I cried like I had never cried before. I asked God to save me and fill me with his love, and I was shocked at how immediately I felt fulfilled and at peace. Whenever I find myself questioning or doubting God, I remember that day when I decided I would rather live than die and He was there to help me do it.

Every day I pray for my father. I pray that God will save him, because in doing so, so many other innocent lives will be saved. I know there is nothing God can’t do, and even though my father seems like a monster, he’s not beyond help. I don’t know if I can ever truly forgive him, but God can, and I try to every day.

With God I know, I am not Abandoned, I am Remembered. I am not Broken, I am Whole. I am not Suicidal and Depressed, there is Hope. And I am not Fearful, because God is always with me.

A childhood full of everything.  There was not a “want” that did not get granted.  I think mom used money to make up for my father.  His famous line echo’s still in my head. 

Everything is black and white and there is no in between.

Perfect words to live by as an accountant not so perfect from a daughter who sees meaning in everything.

Depression hit me in high school and off to the best Drs. money could bye.  Sucked into a world where medication numbed those “thoughts”.  My body fought hard.  My parents thought, “they’re Doctors”, so they had to have known what they were doing.  Years institutionalized for “reading in between the lines”.  Used as a guinea pig.  This med reacted this way.  Side effects needed more meds. 

MANIC DEPRESSIVE, SCHIZZO AFFECTIVE, GRANDE DILLUSIONS

With each symptom, with each new prescription a new diagnosis.  At one point 16 mind altering meds at the same time. All in hopes to fix what side effect accompanied the last.  A whole year of this went by.  Finally, An angel (had to be, right?) Dr.Crosby got a hold of my case.  He simply said, “Take her off of the drugs.”  Some time later after being weaned with caution I got to meet him.  He asked, “Is this who you are, well, You’re quite a pistol.”

I’m now 38 and have a wonderful husband who puts up daily with my constant questioning and finding meaning in everything.  I was given two perfectly unique children.  I want so bad to hear God again and to know what He has in store for me.  I’m still unclear as to what my Secret Name is.  I know deep down everything happens for a reason and God has always been right there, but when you’ve been made to believe that your thought process is wrong and only tangible things are reality, breathing this worlds’ air is tough.

I had a rough life growing up with an abusive, alcoholic mother. I was verbally and physically beaten down on many occasions. We didn’t have much money growing up and I often wore clothes for several years or wore hand-me-downs. As you can imagine this led to some real teasing in school. There was other abuses that occurred as well in life that led to me feeling defeated and beaten down.

I didn’t try too hard in life as judgements were already being made before the results came, so why bother. I accepted the mantle of defeat and lived life that way growing up.

After graduating HS I joined the Army where I actually thrived. In the Army there were set standards and requirements for success and promotion. This was not the subjective world I had come from. Everything was going great in the Army until I got married to a NY girl while in Hawaii. She had wanted to get out of the Army but was unable too.

Shortly after marrying she wanted to start a family and shortly after getting pregnant she left the service. It wasn’t long after her exit from the Army that she made her exit from the marriage. This was a bitter and painful pill for me to swallow. I loved my son with all that was within me and it absolutely tore me up to have him taken from me like that. She proceeded to do everything she could to drive a wedge between he and I and keep me from seeing him.

I fought court battle after court battle just to maintain visitation of some form. This started in 1994 and has continued to this very day with him now being 18 and her still doing her best to alienate me from him. She has mostly succeeded of late.

Then there is my current situation. Our manager was essentially forced to step down due to a situation that two co-workers exploited. The manager did not do anything wrong, but was in a tough situation with his brother working in the same department under him. There is so much more that you could make a soap opera from it but I will not go into all the details.

The position was posted internally and I applied along with the two co-workers who were responsible for forcing the manager’s resignation. These same two are the polar opposite of what you would expect from a professional manager. The cursing, slander, backbiting, racial slurs, and anti-team building mentality that comes from these two co-workers is astounding. 

 To make matters worse, both of these applicants had been attacking each other secretly and supporting each other openly. They tried to get me to take sides in this and I refused. It gotso bad that I decided I needed to say something and called them both out on it. This had the end result of them aligning together against me and accusing me of trying ot pit them against each other. They then went on a smear campaign against me and even went after some of my supporters.

The environment got very ugly. Many times I was tempted to play those same games to counter their tactics but each time was convicted otherwise. I have to say it was a real struggle though because I saw them advancing and me not based on all of this and I was so tempted to do anything to prevent that as I knew it would be detrimental to the office. In the end, my conscious and faith prevailed and I resisted the urge to do unto them as they had done unto me.

My pastor had given a sermon that ended with him making an altar call for those who felt convicted to be more of a leader for God in the work place, home, etc. I went forward with many others and accepted this challenge. The sermon the following week was on enduring trials in our life and trusting God to deliver us through them.

During this same time my small group began a book called, “Your Secret Name.” I began the book on Tuesday of last week. On Wednesday, the director came in and informed us of who made the final cut. I finished the book on Thursday.

I spoke with the director soon after the announcement to ask what is was about these two that he felt set them apart. It was their title, nothing else. I had 9 years of military experience, had graduated tops in all of my leadership classes, and had led and motivated soldiers for six years. This was recognized and he stated that I had a very strong application, was universally seen in the division as a healer, peace maker, and one who unites.

He went on to say that I had demonstrated an effort to build bridges with other departments, had strong support on the panel, and in the division BUT, they decided to cut the pool of applicants based on a title that required no leadership ability at all.

This was very eye opening for me. It wasn’t anything I did or didn’t do, it was a title. All the talk the director had said about the importance of leadership in the decision making as nothing but that, talk. In the end, he resorted to the same old methods that held us back for years. Once again I was defeated. Once again I had failed. Or was I?

As I was in the 15th chapter where Kary Oberbrunner listed his given names that he had overcome my mind drifted away to my own set of names I had acquired over the years. They all led me to that feeling of defeat and failure that weighed me down and prevented me from achieving all that could for God, my family, myself, and my employer.

I had done very well at work, but I hadn’t lived for God like I should have. I didn’t do a lot of the things I felt I should because of the ridicule of one of the finalists. But then it happened as I read and mused. Victor. Where had that thought, no – that statement come from? It certainly wasn’t how I was feeling just then. It wasn’t a word that had entered my mind. It wasn’t in the book where I was reading. But there it was again. A voice saying, “Enough! Stop living in defeat, you are Victorious!” It was clear and I knew then and there that God had just given me my new name.

It made all the difference in the world. I looked back at my life and what I had achieved despite all that I had gone through and all that people had done and said to me. I looked at who I was in Christ. I looked at what God had done for me and through me. Why on earth had I walked around all these years feeling defeated. I had risen above the environment I grew up in. I had risen above the tactics used against me in life and at work. I had become a good person despite having every excuse I wanted at my disposal to turn out different.

During all of the backbiting and double-dealing at work I had not compromised my principles or faith. I had withstood the onslaught and resisted the urges to act in the same manner. I was Victorious. I am Victorious. My spirit lifted immediately. My burden was removed. I felt light and free. I went to speak with one of my supporters on the hiring panel who had asked how I was. I reported to her how I had such peace and joy and that I couldn’t explain it in human terms, that it was something that God had pointed out to me.

I had not played the games and politics that the others had. I had not sacrificed my morals or faith on the altar of success or advancement. I had survived, Victorious. Jehovah-Nissi. The Lord is my Banner. The Lord is my Conqueror.

Robert Ostman’s painting titled: “Identity” inspired by Your Secret Name.

His description:

“He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.   To the one who conquers I will give some of the hidden manna, and I will give him a white stone, with a new name written on the stone that no one knows except the one who receives it.” -Revelation 2:17

I chose the topic of “Identity” because it has been a concept that has been perusing my thoughts for years.  One of the facets of our identities resides in our names.  We have our given names, nicknames, the names others call us, the names others think about us (or the ones we fear they do), and the names we think of ourselves.  That’s a lot of names to identify us; plenty of names to fear.  What we focus on becomes reality, whether it was true in the past or not.   Where is your focus?  In what or whom do you place your IDENTITY? 

Let us focus on the One who will give us a new name and some of the hidden manna.  Let your future become your reality!  Let your old identity die in its grave, covered by the blood of Christ.  Embrace your shining new identity that is pure, righteous, and white because of Who God sees in you.  For more information about your identity and your secret name that God will give you, check out the book,“Your Secret Name”, by Kary Oberbrunner, available at amazon.com 

This painting is a conceptual representation of our past, present, and future identities.  The bottom of the painting is a textured black that represents our past.   It contains names that we have been or are still known by.  Our past is sin, darkness, and death. 

The center of the painting is Jesus blood and sacrifice.  His blood covers our sin and He becomes our new Identity.  Our new Identity is found in Christ. 

The white in the painting represents the purity and righteousness of our new identity found in Christ.  The white stone in the center has seven blanks on it which represents the perfect number of God and your new “secret” name which God will give you. 

I hope this painting encourages you to leave the past where it belongs in the grave, to recognize your new position in Christ, and to live in the present without fear as you look forward to the future with hope and the promise of a new name!