It has been about 4 or 5 months since reading Your Secret Name and I did not have a name……….until Monday (memorial day) morning.

I really thought I wouldn’t get one and it really didn’t matter because I know that I love him and he loves me and that is all that matters. The best part is that when you get your name…… you know it. I wanted to share with you the revelation I had.   

I got up and decided not to wait for my friends to get back from bike riding. I took my Bible and my ipod to the beach and I was pretty much alone,  at least compared to the crowds that were there on Sat and Sun. I laid back basking in the sun and cool breeze.   I was so totally at peace.  Beautiful songs playing in my ear and scripture. I laid back to just take it all in.

The presence of the Lord filled me to overflowing and from under my sunglasses tears escaped my eyes. One of the songs was so so upbeat and I thought  “I haven’t danced for so long… and I love to dance.”    All of a sudden, in my meditation,  the Lord Jesus walked over and said  “Pauline,  you are my daughter…come, lets dance together”    And we danced!!!!!!    It was a supernatural experience,  but I danced with my beloved.    We ended up just standing gazing at the ocean and he was loving on me and I on him.     

I am  DAUGHTER!!!!!!!  

I am a changed person!!!!! I so needed that love and exchange with him and he knew exactly what I needed even though I didn’t. I cannot explain the depth of my love for my Saviour.  Hold me up in Prayer. There is more to this story. I put my house up for sale. He is moving me somewhere. Praise the Lord.
 
PS.   I even picked up my guitar and started playing,  which I haven’t done for years and years from when I used to lead worship.   
 
Hallelujah!

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Hello Kary, I attended Your Secret Name conference in March & have been wanting to tell you what I believe my secret names are. I say names because I learned my name from 1 Peter 5:10 — my names are Strong & Steadfast.

I was led to 1 Peter 5 @ 13 years ago when I was going through many difficult times & was trying to understand HOW I could get the Lord in my favor. That’s when I read 1Ptr 5:5

God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.

So I tried teaching myself how to be humble — I did this by defining the antonyms to the word humble & focused on trying NOT to do any of those things. So, I became a better person & felt more worthy (can never truly be worthy) of accepting God’s favor (grace / blessing) and hoped my life would get better. And it did — but not completely — I still felt alone & inadequate.

I kept in mind verse 6:

 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.

So how long was God’s due time? Would it be during my lifetime? Then when I was at the conference, I remembered my goal of tyring to humble myself — then realized that my life is so full of blessings, I’m not alone anymore, I love myself, feel confident, have a wonderful husband, son, family, home, job, health, …… I believe I have reached God’s due time — so I went to 1Ptr 5:10, & read:

And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.”

So HE made me Strong & Steadfast !! I’m still not sure how I will use my new names for His Glory — but I’m sure I will discover this in God’s Due Time !! Thank you again & may the God of All Grace richly bless you !!

Our next YSN conference is July 30th.

Recently, my wife picked up a copy of your book Your Secret Name.  I was moved by your candor and bravery to use your emotional journey as a tool for other to address and overcome the baggage in their lives that blocks their relationship with God.  Your book helped me make sense of an emotional journey that I have been consciously on for several months, but suppressing for over 25 years.

As a freshman in high school, my parents divorced.  As my father was leaving our home, he looked at me and said:

 You need to be the man around here. 

Wow, what a burden to put on a 14-year-old. 

My father stayed in the Columbus area and complied with court ordered support and visitation, but emotionally, he was not there. In fact, for almost three years before he left, he was emotionally absent, as he was having an affair with a client, who later became his second wife.  Suddenly, the three of us now played second fiddle to a new family.

Due to his absence, I took on the role of caretaker for my brother and sister, as well as helping my mother pick up the pieces.  I was in a role that I was not emotionally or maturity wise ready for or capable of.  And for that, I became emotionally withdrawn in order to protect myself from the pain, which continues to haunt me with my wife and children.

After all these years, my suppressed feelings regarding my father came roaring out, as I realized that I was not being a loving and instructive father to my 11-year-old son (as well as my 15 year old daughter).  My prayer was to be a better father.  God’s response was to first deal with own father issues.  

I realized that the wounds from my father were impeding my relationship with God.  I vowed to never be like my father, and deep down I always looked upon God with the same caution used when interacting with my father.  He hurt me and let me down, and I was not going to allow God to do the same. But through prayer, the wall that I built to keep God away, crumbled.

God lead me to the book The Way of the Wild Heart by John Eldredge, which spoke about the development of masculinity in a man that God intended and how important of a role I have in my son’s masculine development.  I shared my journey with to two close friends who shared issues they struggle with their fathers.  I felt like God was now ministering to me, as I allowed the door to my heart to be open.

In The Way of the Wild Heart, a key concept of boyhood development is to know and understand that the boy is the Beloved Son of his father, in the same way we are God’s Beloved Son.  I am not sure if I ever felt like my father’s Beloved Son.  I spent many sleepless nights praying about this concept and how could I make sure that my son felt beloved.  

After reading your book (in 1 ½ days), the term Beloved Son began to ring profoundly in my head, thinking that it was my secret name.  I was skeptical and fearful that I was making a rash conclusion based on my time reading Eldredge’s book.  So, I put it on the back burner.  But God had a plan.

About three weeks ago, I was a counselor at our church’s winter mini-camp.  The speaker asked the counselors to prepare poster board testimonies.  On one side, we wrote who we were without Christ; on the other side, who we were with Christ.  I had many different titles for each side and was debating on which one to use.  But when I picked up the marker to make my poster, on the first side I wrote “fatherless.”   On the other side, I wrote “Beloved Son.”  I was taken back by this and did not understand why I wrote those words.  But I handed it in.

At our Saturday evening session, we were asked to come on stage and silently show our posters while music played.  As I walked on to the stage, I could feel my emotions exploding.  I struggled to contain the tears.   I revealed both sides of my poster and walked off the stage, crying profusely, but with a feeling a victory.  Unbeknownst to me, one of the close friends I mentioned earlier was there to watch his sons play in the worship band. Putting his arm around my shoulder, he walked with me to the back of the room.  Clearly a God moment.

I knew that the victory on stage was me finally turning my anger and resentment toward my father over to God, forever.  Simultaneously, God spoke to me — you are my Beloved Son, who I love, care for, and initiate a relationship with you.  My turmoil was gone and the glory of God shined on me.  And even better, my son was sitting in the crowd.

I finally sat back down with my son, and he asked me if everything is ok and did I need to talk.  We spoke briefly, but I hugged him and told him I am now ready to be the father that you need.  I have never felt him squeeze me so hard after hearing those words.  We spoke in great detail the next day, as he did not understand what I had written on that poster.

There are no words to explain the peace that I have in God today.  No more do I keep him close in order to prevent him from hurting me.   Rather, I come to him like an 11-year-old boy, full of excitement and admiration, knowing that he is my Father. 

I want to thank you for sharing your story and writing a book that God can use as a tool to break through the barriers that we create in our heart.

Several weeks have now past since the conference and just wanted to let you know how my life has changed. I had wrote to you after the conference about my battle. It started the day after. I could not believe all the things that had been loading me down: physical, sexual and mental abuse from my childhood serviced along with the continual abuse in my first marriage, abandonment of my parents through divorce and alcohol abuse and the death of my son.

Through the participation on my part of the conference I let it all out. I truly didn’t know all this “junk in my trunk” was having such a stronghold on me. I was angry with God and asked him question after question,while crying and sometimes raising my voice at him.

When I went to church on the Sunday after the conference I did not want to be there period. I did not want to praise him let along sing in joy. I stuffed my hands in my pockets so as not to lift my hands in praise. I actually left and walked out and got a cup of coffee. As pastor gave the sermon I had a question for almost everything he was talking to us about:

• where is my passion?
• am I part of what God is doing here on earth?
• how does God speak to me?
• how does he show me the direction to go?
• do I trust God?
• am I doing what God has called me to do?
• where is my faith?
• value?
• how does God want me to respond?
• what is my focus?
• what am I battling?
• what am I dealing with?

These are just a few of the questions I wrote down during the sermon:

• Nothing is impossible for God
• Peace in life comes from the prince of peace
• Where is my rest and peace?

As the day progressed on Sunday God took me on a journey of healing. Healing all those wounds and pain. Healing!!!! I was on 3 different anti-depressents and multiple pain relief meds for my RA, OA, and fibromyalgia.

No more pain! No more pills! Amen brother! Amen! The names I had wrote down was in a round about way, the long way to lead me to my identidy….VICTIM.

Funny I Never seen myself as a VICTIM.

My Secret Name is El-Nathan-N’Qamah…Defended from Isaiah 25:4

You have been a refuge for the poor, a refuge for the needy in his distress, a shelter from the storm and a shade from the heat. For the breath of the ruthless is like a storm driving against a wall

I am very grateful that God placed this conference on your heart. I am so FREE! I had to shout it out loud outside with my hands lifted God Loves Me!!

God Loves Me!!

How freeing.

I am sharing this conference with many and I am sitting down with my Pastor next Wednesday to share this conference and how it has forever changed my life and understanding of who I am in Christ.

God Bless You Brother

I have started a new adventure a new journey in my life and yes with the most important person in my life that could ever be in it. Jesus Christ. Our Beloved.

But As I’ve come to realize I am saying goodbye to an old me. Someone who was afraid to step outside that box and try new things. Some one who used to just settle and not think she was good enough or deserved any better then what she had. Someone who once thought she didn’t have a purpose. But by doing so I have also started to grieve over this person. It is as if she was a friend who has passed away. I never thought I would feel this way before.

 It is because of Christ that I am who I am today. HE pulled me out of that dark place, and helped me to see, who I was always meant to be. Who HE created me to be.  HE helped me to see my purpose in HIM.  HE Gave me Joy so insurmountable it is hard to take in at times. SO much Joy I just want to dance and sing and scream HIS name from the top of the roof tops. Because I am in Love with my TRUE Love and I know HE has always been in love with me.

 I have come to realize that when I feel as if HE has walked away from me, It is I who have walked away from HIM.

 I look back at the person I once was before I allowed God to take the reigns in my life, or the Wheel should I say? I allowed HIM to take over. I have allowed HIM to lead me where HE wants me to go. Something I know HE has been waiting for, for a very long  time.

 But I look back on that person and I grieve. I grieve what I’ve always known, I grieve who I once thought I knew, and I grieve the wasted time and the friends I lost because of self-pity.

I grieve for the person I once was who called out for help so many times and couldn’t see the Life Preserver there or the life Boat or Even the Ship being Sent to me by God through others to help me get back up.  I grieve also because the person I have become today mama will never be able to see or get to know.

 To be honest I am proud of who I am today. I’m proud of how far I’ve come but I am more thankful and grateful then proud. You see I shouldn’t be alive today. Many times over I know I should have been put 6 feet Under but every time the Beloved came and rescued me and saved me from that. HE had more for me then that and kept knocking at my door grabbing me, and trying to get my attn to show me what that was.. But I was so blind I couldn’t see it. Finally my eyes have been opened.

I know I am a True Miracle. One of God’s Miracles. I am so extremely thankful and grateful HE never once gave up on me, and that HE put people in my life who Never gave up on me either. I have such a huge Extended family now and not just Biologically and I love everyone of them.

 Finally the Lord helped me, and most importantly HE helped me to stop making excuses.

 I stopped making excuses as to why I couldn’t do things, and instead began to see why I could do it..

I stopped making excuses because of these stupid labels, YES LABELS that’s all they are and all they ever will be, that drs gave me or others gave me. Names that the enemy gave me by using others, but still labels. But I stopped using them as excuses as to why I was the way I was or acted the way I did.

I stopped making excuses as to why I had to be sad or couldn’t move on.

Instead I began to see the positive in things. I began to see the light shining amidst the darkness showing me the way out and I chose to take that path. I chose to take Christ’s hand that was being held out for me. I saw all the possibilities and I saw my dreams coming true. I chose to see Everything I could do, and stopped saying Can’t, for you see there is no such word as that. I began to say I CAN with Christ!! I can’t by myself but I CAN WITH CHRIST.

 I began to finally allow the almost completely diminished Candle  to be used, and as I did this God helped that candle to grow into a torch and now I am never going to allow it to go out.

 LIFE is so WONDERFUL. And Everyday is a new day. Every day I wake up and get another new start on life is a gift given to me by God. Everything looks different now, and even more beautiful.

 I see just how sick others are who want to try and diminish or blow out other people’s candles, But I also see everyone’s hurts and pain. Every Sunday I look around me at church and see so many hurting people. I go out on walks, and I can see so many hurting people.

 I want to help them all as Christ helped me, and placed people in my lives that played a major part in helping me also. Family, friends, and yes even strangers. One of them being the nurse that took care of mama the night she died when I was in the room alone.

 Of all things I see who I am now and I’m excited and joyful and Happy. I see where God wants me to go, and I know it’s so achievable. I wonder why I never grabbed hold of it sooner.

 Yes I’m nervous and a bit scared to start this new Journey. To be spreading these wings for the first time, and starting to fly. Yes I’m nervous and scared to go to college, I’m nervous, and scared to get a job. I’m nervous and scared about what this new life has to offer me. But I am also excited. I’m so excited. Most Importantly I know I’m doing it with Christ walking right beside me, holding my hand, and carrying my burdens for me. All of them.

 I may be scared, but for too long I have let fear hold me back, and now, Now I’m saying Goodbye to Fear, I will No Longer allow it to hold me back. It is time to move Forward in Faith. Christ has promised me a new beginning as HE’s promised everyone else. YES I gave my life fully to Christ in 2004, and now, well now I say LET ME CHANGE, and finally be the REAL ME. Instead of someone just playing a part in this world..

 I don’t want to just Live. I WANT TO LIVE FOR CHRIST, I WANT TO STEP OUTSIDE THAT BOX. Now is the time to do it. There is no better time.. I hear my name being called out as I’m being cheered on by the Master. He’s standing right there beside me, We take the first few steps together, As HE leads me the way I should go, And I will not let go of HIS hand. I will not get lost again. I am going to finish this Race, a race that is no longer a race. I am going to finish it Holding HIS hand. When I fall I know HE’s going to carry me.

 I’m only human and I’m not Perfect, but the best part of all this is, I Don’t have to be. Because Jesus Christ is Perfect. Every time I think about how HE suffered, How HE was beaten, and mocked, How HE was scorned, How HE went through so much and bore my Sins for my Shame, how HE was nailed to a cross, Had Our Father’s face turn away from HIM, And How HE rose again. All for me.. FOR ME, For you, For Everyone, I am overcome with Tears. Sheer Joy but so many tears. I can’t help but to cry.

I didn’t deserve that. And I so don’t deserve this new chance at life, but Christ has given this to me. I WILL NOT TAKE IT FOR GRANTED, I REFUSE TO WALK AWAY FROM THIS CHANCE. I AM GRABBING HOLD OF THIS OPPORTUNITY AND WALKING AWAY FROM THAT CLOSED DOOR, THAT OLD ME. I AM BURYING HER.

Now I’m going through the new doors and I will be who God created me to be. I won’t let fear stop me. Christ is walking with me. I don’t have to be afraid. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. For nothing is impossible with God.

 No more looking back at that old me, That old life, And now to look forward and look only at what God has given me today. 🙂

 Yes I will grieve the old me, although I still don’t fully understand why, but I will only grieve her for a little while. Then  I will walk faithfully with the King. In the new life HE has given me.

 It is time to begin this Life, and be done with the old. IT IS TIME TO FLY!!!!!!!!!!!

 Everyday I have a choice to make. I can choose to be downcasted, depressed, living in self-pity, and being unhappy and living in the dark.

 Or I can choose to hand my life over to Christ, giving HIM the wheel and the reigns. I can choose to be Positive and live in the Light, To be an overcomer, To Shine, To be Joyful, And look only at the Good things it has to offer me, and all the blessings I have been given. I can choose to truly live with Christ.

 I think  I will choose the second everyday. I choose to live like today were my last.. I choose to walk with Christ. I hope and pray everyday for the rest of my life that, that will be my choice.

Goodbye Old. Hello New. And thank-you Jesus for giving me this chance that I so do not deserve for the millionth time in my life.

 JESUS CHRIST HAS ALREADY DECLARED THE VICTORY. So why let the enemy win, Something has already been won?

 PRAISE GOD FOR JESUS CHRIST HAS ALREADY DECLARED THIS VICTORY WON.

My Given Names sheet was covered with all kinds of names – some old and never gone to recent hurts.

I took the test prior to coming and thought my given name was Childless – but at your WONDERFUL session March 5th, I heard God tell me that although I am childless – that is a symptom of another Given Name. When I explored the other names on my sheet – one name kept coming up – resting on Unloved.

When we explored what God’s name was for us – I heard a voice – still and small say: Cherished!

Did I really hear that? I believe so!

When we explored the names for God – none of the names given to us seemed to fit! Upon returning home, I did a search on a Hebrew dictionary website and found El-OLAM – Everlasting God!

I have yet to read your book – but the information at your seminar really helped me break through some bonds holding for almost my entire life!

Thank you!!

I was once called INCAPABLE

Others took out my garbage.

Where I was lost then I was found

And my name is now

EQUIPPED.

My God, Jehovah Tsur:

the Lord is my strength

And my song is

Psalm 144:4

Praise be to the LORD my rock, who trains my hands for war,

my fingers for battle.

I am WRITER for wars, hands ready to write

the sufferers’ stories,

my name

as author.

Upon death, my sunset,

I am Suffrage, not just

a right to do X,Y,Z…

but, archaically:

            a short prayer on behalf of somebody,

            especially a prayer said as part of

            a Christian litany

I am Behalf of the Everybodys

especially those who suffered

I write their stories and songs

Brittle fingers ready for battle.

Poem by Lisa Marie Brodsky Auter

My life is like a yo yo – up and down, up and down. Ups are really good but there are the valleys that we all go through. I am in a valley right now at this seminar – 36 hours earlier I lost my job and a week before that received news from the company physician that I have some “issues” that need to be checked out sooner than later – I have never been sick a day in my life.

In losing my job, my former boss (I think he must have been related to Screwtape) had been trying to make work so miserable that I would quit. What he did not know was that I consider the Lord my boss and He was with me always even in some of those dark moments. He always tried to get me to think I was incompetent, not capable. He would constantly throw a barrage of words with the common theme not capable – it started to stick and after 30 years of being in this profession, I was beginning to doubt myself.

Then boom, I am without a job. Then in this seminar “Your Secret Name” – call me crazy but it was a God moment; no other way to explain it. As we went through the exercises, I did not hear my name right away. Later that day I did hear my name – it is capable and not incapable as the other side wanted me to believe. Thanks for showing me my name.

Overall, loved this book. Like I have said before, it’s not my “typical” fare, but I appreciated the chance to look at myself a little more deeply than I usually do. When all was said and done, here are two names that I want to remember for myself – I now know that God calls me:

SECURE and   SOUGHT OUT

Let me take a moment to explain each one, if you’re interested.

I’ve never read anything by Beth Moore, but on many of the blogs I read, people are always talking about how great she is, so a year or two ago, I considered picking up her latest book. However, then I saw it was called So Long Insecurity. I am chuckling now as I write this because I can’t believe I actually did/thought this, but I honestly said to myself, “I don’t need to read that. I am very secure in myself. I don’t think I’m insecure at all. Oh well, I guess Beth Moore’s not for me.”

Well, I still haven’t read any Beth Moore books, but as you might guess, even without the help of her book, over the past year or two, I have recognized that perhaps I am not quite as “secure” as I thought I was. I think this insecurity has always existed, but I just didn’t realize it until now (and my response to the Beth Moore book actually was one of the things that helped me recognize it.)

I feel insecure socially. I worry about saying or doing the right thing. There are times when I find myself nearly paralyzed from helping someone or talking to someone (especially strangers) because I am so afraid I will look foolish.

I feel insecure in terms of safety, as I try to fall asleep at night but can’t for fear of carbon monoxide poisoning, kidnappers, spiders, or pinecones falling onto our roof, which sound suspiciously like a home invader out on our deck at three o’clock in the morning.

I feel insecure as I look at myself in the mirror, or listen to myself teach adult Bible study, or write blog posts.

As I’ve read through Your Secret Name, and as I led several devotion times on the ideas from Your Secret Name at a winter retreat last month, this insecurity has become very apparent.

Thankfully, though, it’s an insecurity which has pointed me to God, my Security and Refuge.

In Him, I know I am SECURE.

Surely he will never be shaken; a righteous man will be remembered forever. He will have no fear of bad news; his heart is steadfast, trusting in the LORD. His heart is SECURE, he will have no fear… (Psalm 112:6-8a)

Likewise, over the course of this read-along, I discovered another (related) Given Name of mine: Not Sought Out. I often think of myself as someone who people don’t seek out. Sure, they enjoy me if I’m around, but I’m not someone who everyone comes running to be with. In college, with a few exceptions, I rarely had anyone knock on the door of my dorm room to say hello or ask if I wanted to hang out. At parties or other social gatherings, I rarely find people approaching me to talk or sit next to me. I’m always the one who has to seek out other people, or try to place myself in a position where I can join in a conversation, or find something to do.

This isn’t a knock at the people I went to college with, or the people I hang out with now… just a recent realization that there are times when I find myself wishing someone would come find me.

Yet again, I discovered at our winter retreat that I am SOUGHT OUT. God seeks me and cares about me. Seriously, pretty incredible. No offense to my friends, but I think I’d rather have the God of the universe seek me out any day. 🙂

For the Son of Man came to SEEK and to save what was lost. (Luke 19:10)

Thanks, Kary, for your great book, and thanks, Marla, for putting together this read-along!

Fear not, for I have redeemed you… I have called you by name, you are Mine! Isaiah 43:1